Sweet Nothings That Mean The Most
Written by: Katera Brannon (@Katera2xs)
Too often guys find themselves getting into classic arguments stemming from their girlfriend feeling ‘unappreciated’ or ‘unloved’. Girls like attention, but not the way most guys tend to think. It’s the little things that mean the most to girls.
10. Remind us of appointments and things we have planned (it shows you pay attention)
Try to remember dates and appointments other than major holidays and birthdays…be her little reminder for something other than her daily birth control. Send her a text the morning of her big test, or text her the night before a doctor’s appointment. Small things like this let us know you care about our schedule as much as you care about your own.
9. Compliment the things we are insecure about
A lot of girls don’t like to cook for their boyfriends and significant others because they are worried they wont like it. The same goes for doing a naughty strip tease, or even having sex with the lights on. Give out a few compliments that you actually mean. Even if the food isn’t that great, tell her she looks so comfortable working her way around the kitchen, or while she is doing her shy strip tease tell her how amazing she looks in her lingerie, lastly the ‘lights off’ sex. If she ALWAYS wants the lights off, chances are she is self conscious about stretch marks, a little pudge, or even old scars…tell her how great her body feels and looks. It should give her a boost of confidence.
8. Watch the things we like to watch and enjoy it
It’s a Sunday night and your team isn’t playing….nor is it an interesting game. Let her take control of the remote and turn to one of her reality shows. 30 minutes to an hour of Bad Girls Club or Real Housewives Of Atlanta wont kill you. Don’t complain about how dramatic the girls are, or how stupid they look on tv, just watch and try to get into it. Ask her about the characters, or even the previous episode. Oh, just an FYI tip: spending time with your girl watching her favorite shows with her doesn’t make you any less of a man.
7. Slight affection in public
Keyword being slight! Don’t grope my ass while we grocery shop…nor tongue me down while we wait at the RedBox. Yes, we like public displays of affection….but in moderation. A simple forehead kiss or a gentle hand on the lower back serves our wants just fine.
6. Ask us about our friends
Too often we feel like we have to give up our friend whenever we are in a relationship. Hell, sometimes we even lose friends whenever we get a new beau. Make a girl feel like her friends are still important. Ask her about her close friends (you know, the ones that were in her facebook profile pics before you came along). Something as simple as “hey, how is Britt doing? She still work at the bank?” makes a girl feel like her life before you is still important.
5. Talk to us about ‘boyish’ things
While laying in bed or riding in the car….attempt to have sports talk with us. Tell us about a new mixtape. Hell, even brag about how your time at the gym was. Girls like to think they have the perfect combination of friendship and relationship. So from time to time, talk to her like she is a friend.
4. Text us about unimportant and awkward little things
Everything you text doesn’t have to have a point. Sometimes sending that random thought you are having like “Bae, you think somebody solved the mystery flavor white air head yet?”. It gives us a little chuckle and lets us know we cross your mind at random times.
3. Accidentally let us keep your favorite shirt so we can sleep in it
Yep, when you come over and shower…take everything with you back home except that one t-shirt you love to wear. When she sends you a text telling you that you left it behind, simply reply “its fine, leave it there”. Eventually she will begin to wear it around the house and sleep in it.
2. Leave your phone any and everywhere
A missed call wont kill you, so act like it. When you all are spending time together, no need to constantly check your phone or carry it from room to room. Leave it on the dresser, in your pocket, or in your car. FYI: a girl is less likely to go through a phone she doesn’t see or hear.
1. Let us know what makes us special and/or different….let us know what makes us amazing.
We are forced to look at local ‘super’ models on a daily basis. Yet, you are with us. We are pretty and smart….but so are they. Let us know what stands out about us. Whether it be that we are realistic, funny, athletic, down to earth, or just have a great sense of humor….tell us. We will always wonder ‘why’. Not because we are insecure…but because we are curious.
Every girl is different and not everything on the list is going to appeal to her. But if she is worth it…let her know. Take a little more time, thought, and effort to show her you care.